Breaking up With a Friend

Breaking up with a friend is harder than breaking up with a lover.
When you're breaking up with a significant other you can always sugar-coat it by saying something like :

"Hey let's still be friends okay?" 

You can't do that to a friend. What are you going to say?

"Hey let's just be mild acquaintances because I'm sick of being there for you when you're never there in return for me so let's just stop this whole charade but I'm scared to cut you out completely so let's just passive aggressively stalk each others facebooks okay?" 

It's also harder to justify breaking ties with someone you've been close with for years.
If they didn't do something as bad as run over your cat or steal your grandmothers watch then you don't really have anything concrete that will make any sense to anyone but you.

To anyone else it'll just be you "being too sensitive" or "making a big deal out of nothing."
But you know what?
If someone is constantly hurting your feelings or making you feel low then you are justified to be hurt or angry or irked or sad.
If someone is only present when they need someone to talk to ,when all of their normal channels have fallen through , and you're their last resort because they know you'll always pick up your phone for them, then that's not a friend.

If you turn around and try to reach out to them when you truly need it, and they can't find the time to take a two minute conversation seriously, that's not a friend.

When this is an ongoing pattern , it's time to let it go.

It's hard to though. 
You're scared you'll miss them.
Or you'll feel bad for bringing attention to it.
The very worst part though, is the fact that you still love and care about this person and you want them in your life , and you're holding on to that hope that they'll change.
Then one day you finally realize , after being blown off again, that they already have changed.
You realize that they're no longer the person you're scared to miss.
That person no longer exists.
And then you realize, and accept, it's time to move on.